Goal-setting can be a trap if we haven’t done the ground work to assess what the genuine outcomes we wish for are.
The start of a new year is always a symbolic ritual. Out with the old and in with the new.
It’s often a time for resolutions and visualising some broader vision for the year to come.
Yet, rigid goal-setting is most often ineffective and can come from a place of “should”, rather than “want”.
This doesn’t mean that we have to scrap goals and intentions completely. …
Consolidating what you do well is a powerful mechanism to keep you motivated and resilient in difficult times.
As we are nearing the end of the year, it’s a good time to pause and reflect.
While most of us are good at setting intentions and goals, we are less good at celebrating and acknowledging our success.
We run from goal to goal, raising the bar all the time, inevitably feeling like we have not achieved everything we could have achieved.
The unexpected changes our rhythm of life.
This year has been a prime test of our ability to be resilient in front of unforeseen circumstances. It has also impacted people materially and emotionally, in different ways. …
When your career feels like a fast moving train, slow down.
Have you ever felt that your career is like a fast moving train?
You’ve been in a job that you don’t like for years, fantasising about leaving and doing something else.
Yet, you always feel held back. A thousand dizzying questions come up in your mind:
As the time passes, you feel more and more stuck in your tracks. After all, you’ve invested so much time and effort to get to where you are today. …
Your sensitivity often hides more strength than you can imagine. Make it your friend and tame it to serve your path.
As a coach, I love to work with people who share some common qualities. They are kind, empathetic and intuitive. It so happens that they are also highly talented, visionary and competent individuals.
Yet, having these qualities does not mean that they have an easy ride in their career.
In fact, they are sometimes made to feel that they are too sensitive to succeed in cut-throat industries.
Their kindness is seen as weakness.
Their empathy is seen as inefficiency. …
Paradoxically, knowing who we admire can help us better reconnect with ourselves. It can also give us of a sense of trust that we are not alone on our path.
From time to time, it’s important to revisit who we admire. In fact, this exercise can remind us of what we respect in others, so we can nurture the parts of ourselves that we appreciate most in other people.
At a fundamental level, we are social beings who need references in order to make sense of the different ways in which we can be human in this world. …
When we say that we don’t know what we’re supposed to do with our lives, we often don’t really mean that. What we actually mean is: we don’t know how to make the optimal choice that keeps a balance between money and enjoyment.
In life, it seems that we are offered two choices. One is to work in a job that we don’t feel passionate about but that helps us make a comfortable living. The other is to do work that we feel passionate about but by taking a significant hit to the amount of money we could make. …
There is a common misunderstanding that self-compassion means lowering your standards or being lenient with the quality of your work. But it is simply an attitude towards yourself, while you are doing the difficult and worthwhile things that you’re trying to do.
As a coach, most people I work with have very high standards for themselves. They are usually high-performers focused on doing things well in their work. But, at times in their lives, this catches up on them. Feelings of inadequacy, fatigue and burnout creep their way in. …
If you are going through a period of doubt or crisis, this may be your time for a breakthrough. With one condition: embracing uncertainty.
As humans, we are wired to look for security, preserve our resources and avoid loss. We usually change only when our circumstances get so bad that almost any change is better than the status quo.
That is why people get comfortable with their lives when things work pretty well, even if deep down they would like things to be better.
To overcome our aversion to risk, it’s never enough to just want things to be a bit better. …
If you feel drawn to autonomy, independence, and ownership, there’s a richer and more meaningful way to see entrepreneurship.
If you have an entrepreneurial spirit, then you are likely to see the big picture, be creative, enjoy being of service to others and feel energised when you witness the ripple of impact that you have on others.
You might feel trapped in a job or organisation where you can’t express this spirit fully. The only way out appears to be a far vision of coming up with an innovative idea and founding a venture.
Yet, this can be a really intimidating vision that often gets people more stuck, rather than motivating them to fully express their gifts and talents more immediately. …
Getting stuck is often an indicator that we are engaging in poor quality thinking for ourselves. But there’s a way to get out of it.
When we feel stuck on an important career or work-related decision, we tend to engage in two types of thinking: overthinking and underthinking.
Type 1: Overthinking
We over-analyse our circumstances and all possible scenarios. This ends up paralysing us even more.
Type 2: Underthinking
We hide the problem in the back of our mind and get buried in ‘busy work’. We end up not dealing with our dilemma.
Engaging in these types of thinking is simply a human tendency. We have to treat it with compassion towards ourselves. …