Paradoxically, knowing who we admire can help us better reconnect with ourselves. It can also give us of a sense of trust that we are not alone on our path.

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From time to time, it’s important to revisit who we admire. In fact, this exercise can remind us of what we respect in others, so we can nurture the parts of ourselves that we appreciate most in other people.

At a fundamental level, we are social beings who need references in order to make sense of the different ways in which we can be human in this world. …


When we say that we don’t know what we’re supposed to do with our lives, we often don’t really mean that. What we actually mean is: we don’t know how to make the optimal choice that keeps a balance between money and enjoyment.

In life, it seems that we are offered two choices. One is to work in a job that we don’t feel passionate about but that helps us make a comfortable living. The other is to do work that we feel passionate about but by taking a significant hit to the amount of money we could make. …


There is a common misunderstanding that self-compassion means lowering your standards or being lenient with the quality of your work. But it is simply an attitude towards yourself, while you are doing the difficult and worthwhile things that you’re trying to do.

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As a coach, most people I work with have very high standards for themselves. They are usually high-performers focused on doing things well in their work. But, at times in their lives, this catches up on them. Feelings of inadequacy, fatigue and burnout creep their way in. …


If you are going through a period of doubt or crisis, this may be your time for a breakthrough. With one condition: embracing uncertainty.

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As humans, we are wired to look for security, preserve our resources and avoid loss. We usually change only when our circumstances get so bad that almost any change is better than the status quo.

That is why people get comfortable with their lives when things work pretty well, even if deep down they would like things to be better.

To overcome our aversion to risk, it’s never enough to just want things to be a bit better. …


If you feel drawn to autonomy, independence, and ownership, there’s a richer and more meaningful way to see entrepreneurship.

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If you have an entrepreneurial spirit, then you are likely to see the big picture, be creative, enjoy being of service to others and feel energised when you witness the ripple of impact that you have on others.

You might feel trapped in a job or organisation where you can’t express this spirit fully. The only way out appears to be a far vision of coming up with an innovative idea and founding a venture.

Yet, this can be a really intimidating vision that often gets people more stuck, rather than motivating them to fully express their gifts and talents more immediately. …


Getting stuck is often an indicator that we are engaging in poor quality thinking for ourselves. But there’s a way to get out of it.

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When we feel stuck on an important career or work-related decision, we tend to engage in two types of thinking: overthinking and underthinking.

Type 1: Overthinking

We over-analyse our circumstances and all possible scenarios. This ends up paralysing us even more.

Type 2: Underthinking

We hide the problem in the back of our mind and get buried in ‘busy work’. We end up not dealing with our dilemma.

Engaging in these types of thinking is simply a human tendency. We have to treat it with compassion towards ourselves. …


“Why rebel if there is nothing permanent in oneself worth preserving?” — Albert Camus

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I always say that I coach talented and driven individuals, who feel there’s an inkling of rebellion in them. They might not identify as a rebel or feel like a rebel, but deep down they are one. So, what does it mean to be a rebel?

When thinking about rebellion, we tend to imagine insurgency in troubled times, brave people who are part of revolutions, or culturally quirky people who don’t abide by social norms.

That’s the image, but beneath it, there’s a rebel mindset.

“Why rebel if there is nothing permanent in oneself worth preserving?” — Albert…


People often find themselves disillusioned and burned out in their job, not because they dislike what they do per se. They dislike how it’s done.

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re…

Dreading Monday mornings, or not particularly enthused by the start of a new week.

Finding yourself increasingly drained after a day of work.

Looking ahead towards the future and not really visualising yourself in the same place.

Then, you might have tried to assess what’s going wrong for yourself!

You may have found that…

You like the “concept” of your job. …


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Connecting to what truly matters to you can be challenging. Your deepest desires are sometimes hidden underneath your biggest fears. Fear of failure makes many ideas, dreams and worthwhile actions, go to waste.

The usual culprits are the thoughts that say…

  • What if it’s not going to work out?
  • What if I’ll be rejected?
  • What if I’ll ruin everything I’ve built?

If you knew you truly could not fail, or in other words, if you knew that…

  • You are totally safe…
  • You will be accepted unconditionally…
  • You will be appreciated no matter what…
  • Everything will work out in your favour…

Who would you be?


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There come moments in your career when you’re made to feel small. It takes different shapes and forms. Yet, there’s a common denominator underlying it.

You’re made to feel, and play, below the value you know you have deep inside.

It usually looks like this:

  • Your managers are not appreciating your contributions fully.
  • You feel like your efforts are invisible.
  • Everything you do needs to be reviewed and signed off again and again.
  • You’re not treated like an equal partner in discussions.
  • You feel cut off from key decisions that you should be a part of.
  • You’re not truly empowered through tangible actions, everything sounds like empty rhetoric. …

About

Anisia Bucur FRSA

Coach — Career and Work Transformation | PhD Researcher | Facilitator

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