Could Your Breakdown Be Your Breakthrough?

If you are going through a period of doubt or crisis, this may be your time for a breakthrough. With one condition: embracing uncertainty.

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humans, we are wired to look for security, preserve our resources and avoid loss. We usually change only when our circumstances get so bad that almost any change is better than the status quo.

That is why people get comfortable with their lives when things work pretty well, even if deep down they would like things to be better.

To overcome our aversion to risk, it’s never enough to just want things to be a bit better.

We need a compelling reason to fight through our deeply ingrained need for safety.

That’s why people often have their biggest breakthroughs after a breaking point. If you are going through a period of doubt or crisis, this may be your time for a breakthrough.

Yet, any desire to create a big shift in our lives is held back by one thing: our resistance to uncertainty.

This year marks three years since I left my career in finance. When I decided to leave my corporate job, most people around me wanted to have some clear answers from me. What was I going to do? How was I going to do it? What were my exact plans and backup plans? Some thought that I was being rash, and even warned me about the risks ahead of me. I was making up answers to avoid the discomfort, but in truth: I had no idea, except some broad vision. The rest is history.

There is no secret formula to change, except embracing that there will be unknowns.

Embracing uncertainty means:

  • Taking little steps even if you don’t have all the answers right now.
  • Opening up to the fact that magic can happen if you let yourself guided by your intuition.
  • Committing to your process, without attaching yourself to the outcomes.

“Do you have the patience to wait until your mud settles and the water is clear?” — Lao Tzu

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Coach — Career and Work Transformation | PhD Researcher | Facilitator

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