Four Questions to Recover from Multiple Job Rejections

Reclaiming a new path for yourself is a process. When things get hard, remind yourself of how far you have already come.

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Facing a job rejection can take a toll on your well-being. It’s just human. Facing multiple job rejections, one after the other, can be even more painful to manage.

If you have gone through multiple rounds of interviews and made efforts to be the best version of yourself, rejections can get tiring. Keeping up with a fast-paced job all the while only adds to the load.

It can all get a bit too much.

Rejection feels especially tough when you have a very good feeling about a job. Sometimes, it just feels right: the content of the job fits you and the people are inspiring. So why doesn’t it click?

You know you have everything you need to get that job: the credentials, the experience and the attitude. How can you be more than you already are?

It feels impossible, and you feel stuck.

There are many reasons why you want to leave your current job. They often pile up and compound each other. Your days are filled with things you don’t want to do. People around you make you feel uneasy. The stress of the job is getting to your head.

But more than anything else, you just know that there is something bigger, more exciting and aligned with you out there.

Until you reach that, it feels like you’re running out of patience. Every day is difficult.

When you finally get the job you want, you’ll find happiness. Or so they say.

When things get tough, ask yourself these four questions to release some of the tension:

1. Are you allowing yourself to be happy? Life often gets hard when we let our sense of worth, peace and happiness derive solely from our work. In tough times, it’s easy to let ourselves invaded by assumptions that only add to the suffering.

2. Are you associating a job rejection with a sense of personal failure? Here’s the alternative: appreciating yourself for the courage and willingness to pursue new opportunities.

3. Is there something in your current job that could make things better? It may be a tough conversation about your workload [see my earlier article about boundaries], asking for a raise, or changing some of the tasks you’re doing to support your career development. We usually hold a lot of fears that make us resist doing this. Here is a fear-setting exercise to help you with that: exercise.

4. Are you exhausted, anxious or down? The desire to leave a job is sometimes part and parcel with a tough time mentally. Allowing yourself the space to see the signs that show your mental health is deteriorating is important. Asking for help and support is even better.

Reclaiming a new path for yourself is a process. When things get hard, remind yourself of how far you have already come.

I am a coach and trusted advisor to driven and gifted people who feel there’s an inkling of rebellion in them. I help them create more fulfilment and reduce stress in their work and careers, on their terms. Connect with me here: www.anisiabucur.com

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