Getting stuck is often an indicator that we are engaging in poor quality thinking for ourselves. But there’s a way to get out of it.
When we feel stuck on an important career or work-related decision, we tend to engage in two types of thinking: overthinking and underthinking.
Type 1: Overthinking
We over-analyse our circumstances and all possible scenarios. This ends up paralysing us even more.
Type 2: Underthinking
We hide the problem in the back of our mind and get buried in ‘busy work’. We end up not dealing with our dilemma.
Engaging in these types of thinking is simply a human tendency. We have to treat it with compassion towards ourselves.
In fact, our mind often goes from one state to another over a very short period of time.
We overthink and underthink at the same time.
The paradox is that the more we overanalyse, the more exhausted we get. We end up just wanting to bury all our worries.
Yet, an unresolved dilemma always makes its way back to nag us.
It just won’t go away.
Getting stuck is often an indicator that we are engaging in poor quality thinking for ourselves.
A poor quality thinking scenario looks like this:
- We are reflecting about our circumstances from a place of fear.
- We are focused on what others would say or think about our situation.
- We are trying to escape discomfort at all costs.
- We are asking ourselves low level questions to avoid risk, instead of high level questions that mobilise our creativity and resourcefulness.
So, how do we break the cycle?
Create a better thinking environment for yourself.
I always say that my role as a coach is very rarely to motivate or inspire. It’s all about creating a high quality thinking environment that enables people to tune into their wisdom, and break through their limits to achieve impossible dreams.
Here’s a way to do this for yourself. When feeling stuck, create a sanctuary where you give yourself space to engage in good thinking.
Here are four ways to do that:
- Start by thinking about all the good things in your life: what you have done, how far you have come, and what you enjoy.
- Ask yourself what assumptions you are making: are you thinking about worst case scenarios or limiting your vision about how capable you are?
- Tune into your deeper truth: what really matters to you and why, what’s worth sacrificing and what’s not?
- Watch out for your inner critic and appreciate whatever you are feeling or going through.
Then, notice how your perspective shifts when you do that.
Let the wise answers come to you.
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