Paradoxically, knowing who we admire can help us better reconnect with ourselves. It can also give us of a sense of trust that we are not alone on our path.
From time to time, it’s important to revisit who we admire. In fact, this exercise can remind us of what we respect in others, so we can nurture the parts of ourselves that we appreciate most in other people.
At a fundamental level, we are social beings who need references in order to make sense of the different ways in which we can be human in this world. For better or worse, other people are role models that either expand or limit our vision of what’s possible for ourselves.
Paradoxically, knowing whom we admire can help us better reconnect with ourselves. It can also give us a sense of trust that we are not alone on our path.
In fact, knowing who we admire, and why we admire them, can guide us in periods of career doubt or crisis. I invite you to think about this for yourself:
- Who are two people that you really admire?
- Why do you admire them (qualities, contribution, way of being)?
- What does this say about what matters to you and who you are?
You can push this exercise even further, and think about who you are jealous of! This might sound strange at first. Yet, within jealousy, there is a lot of wisdom to find about our deeper needs and desires. I’ve learned this from my own coach and guide.
We can use a joyful kind of jealousy, in that we recognise the feeling but instead of nurturing negative thoughts around it, we take it as a recognition of what we would like to create in our lives, too. You will find in ancient wisdom the practice of Mudita, meaning cultivating joy at the success and good fortune of others.
So, when in doubt, think about who you admire, and what this says about the choices you can make now. There is a sea of possibilities, if you allow yourself to see the vastness of it.
Tune into your inner ability to make and create things. Then see how it feels for you.
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